Friday, June 23, 2006

Thoughts about gay pride...

So it's the annual gay pride weekend here in SF, and so decided to post thoughts and questions that have run in my mind about pride...

o Is pride still relevant? Personally, no; socially, yes. I've realized I've come a very long way since being the closeted cyberslut when I was in college to now being 1/2 of the most famous married gay Asian male couple in the world :P and so I can look at pride as something that's evolved as the LGBTQ community (or at least the rich GWM community :D) has evolved to something more commercial (because of the myth that queers have a lot more disposable income; etc.) and rather irrelevant as the community becomes more conservative and not really standing for what I believe in, partly because of marriage, etc., especially as more people come out. But I am reminded that where I am personally as well as physically makes it easy for me to be both gay and Asian--talking to gay Asian folk who don't live in areas like SF, LA, or NYC reminds me how easy I've got it here.

o I've also been thinking about how fluid sexuality is--from dykes watching gay porn, to straight men having sex with each other and having sex with women for gay men--and to its more romantic/relationship side, especially seeing how my bi friends have started relationships with people of the same sex as well as with the opposite sex, and how people claim bisexuality--from people who are open to having sex and relationships with both men and women; to people who claim to be bi and have never had any sort of relationship with someone of the same (or opposite!) sex. I wonder how many gay men get turned on by watching straight couples having sex and then have to go through this whole mental rationalization of saying they were focusing on the guy. :) Unfortunately, it just makes me realize that I'm about as Kinsey 5.9999 as they come--I've had chances to have sex with women, but I've never been turned on enough to really go through with it. I'm probably one of the few fags out there who've never done anything with women.

More random thoughts to come...

1 comment:

Mister said...

Every year I watch Dykes on Bikes before heading to Civic Center to pick up free shit (lube)and eat expensive shitty food. Every year I'm bored. I keep comparing recent prides with Pride back in the 80's when marching was a political/social protest, it was a trip seeing how many other gay men/women were out and about, seeing and being around other gays. Now it's a commerical event. I saw a naked man jerking off on the corner of Market and Sansome. I have no problem with men jerking off on the corner of Sansome and Market and then I do. I marched last year with the San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus. I was bored. I had more of a rush marching up 5th Avenue in the 80's with the Gay Witches and Pagans. Now THAT was like a shotgun it off a fattie!