Monday, September 25, 2006

Random thoughts (again)

o Damn, I'm tired.

o More from being too addicted to my newest game for my Nintendo DS Lite (Dragon Quest Heroes: Rocket Slime) than actual work, mind you (though that plays a big part).

o Been hanging out with old friends from Hawai'i and Vancouver who came here for Folsom Street Fair. I couldn't actually go myself (nor was I really into it--if I wanted to see old white men in ill-fitting jocks, I'll go to the gym) b/c of school.

o My friend from Hawai'i made an interesting point on what attracts people to SF--and how people try to stand out in this town. "Most people in SF come here because they stood out in the crowd--but when they come here, they realize they don't stand out anymore."

It got me thinking and realize how true that is, but then again, considering what I've done the past few years...I don't really want to stick out anymore.

o Same friend also challenged me to try the Rough Water Swim in Waikiki next year. Guess I really have to be serious about swimming now.

o Realized that swimming is one of the few things keeping me sane--I realized that I was pulling another jozjozjoz again, working 40+ hours a week, taking 2 classes, volunteering, and swimming. No wonder I'm exhausted!

o Got hit on by Mr. CSW Leather 2006 while having dim sum with some Asian leatherfolk on Saturday...he's cute! ;) And did I mention how fucking hard it is to find decent Asian leather tops?!

Sunday, September 24, 2006

If there's one thing I learned the past month...

Never go to a club after eating Korean barbecue for dinner--even if you have a significant other.

:)

Monday, September 11, 2006

Have to get my asbestos suit refitted!

So for those of you in the Bay Area, I've been featured in the SF Bay Times' front page for an opinion column I wrote about (the lack of) the queer Asian men's community here in SF as part of the San Francisco Gay Men's Community Initiative biweekly column, Sparks. It's not quite online just yet, but as soon as it is, I'll post a link in a future post.

The bulk of the column is essentially a polemic against the queer Asian men's organizations here in SF for perpetuating all the fucked-up -isms here in SF, sexism/misogyny, racism, classism, etc., not to mention looks and whatnot, and how these organizations haven't really done much to promote any sort of community here at all.

If you get a hold of a copy, let me know what you think.

Saturday, September 02, 2006

Interesting article about bears...

Here's an interesting article from SFGate.com about the bear subculture--of course it's about white men (of course.).

I've always been ambivalent about identifying with this community, especially after I wrote an article for the now-defunct Noodle Magazine about Asian bears (I had the dubious distinction of being the only writer featured in the first and last issue of the mag). What struck me about the community was all the various distinctions that were made within the community--from how much body hair one has, to the amount of muscle/fat one has, age, etc., and how everything was so neatly compartmentalized. On the one hand, it makes things neat and tidy, but then it also seems extremely constricting, hence my ambivalence.

There also seems to be a distinct difference in the way the communities are set up here in the US, and the Asian-centered ones (like in Japan, though I've met--and done--numerous chasers from all over Asia, as well as Asian American and Asian Canadian chasers), where the ones in Asia don't have these hard and fast distinctions--and it always shocks me that guys from Asia seem to not have the problems with body size and being with other Asian men who are bigger as opposed to guys who came out here in the US, especially guys who seem to be the Asian version of Castro clones don't have these issues and are just willing to fool around with bigger men as with men who are similar to them. I'm sure it also has to do with how being fat signifies a certain sense of class privilege and signifies one being rich because one can afford to eat and get fat (at least in poorer countries like the Philippines).

It is exciting to see that there are more Asian guys here in the US who are being more open about being into G-Men (muscular bear/chub-type Asians). At least it gives me more opportunities. *grin*